Monday, June 18, 2012
Plenty of Fish in the Sea
There are puh-lenty of fish in the sea. Only a fool keeps any bottom feeder fish he pulls out at first try. Hey, some people like catfish, and flounders, and are content with that catch and pack it up and head home. Good for them. They will be done with that fish real quick, and will be left unsatisfied and still hungry, and you’ll see them back out there looking for more. Have some patience. Throw your best hook, line, and sinker out there, and sit back and relax. Enjoy your time alone with your thoughts. When you feel a snag, reel it in, and if its garbage, throw it back quick, before you hurt it. Throw your line back out there and keep waiting. Good things come to those who wait. The best things come to those who wait even longer. Don’t settle for a fish you don’t really want. Its sucks watching everybody else catch fish and go home, some guys even catch multiple fish, and yet you are still there waiting for your perfect catch. Even if you wait patiently all day and night, and come back the next day and do it again, and still don’t catch the fish of your dreams, don’t give up! You might even get insecure, after seeing some new guy come out there on his first day and catch a fish in the first couple hours , that’s as long as his leg, and decide you want to switch out your fishing gear, get a new pole and some new lures, maybe even a whole new tackle box. I guess I couldn’t hurt, but you didn’t have to do that. It just wasn’t your time yet, stay patient, and it will eventually be your turn. If you endure to the end, you will one day feel that tug on your line that will dang near pull you into the water. You’ll immediately realize its the one you’ve been waiting for your whole life, without a doubt. You work harder than you’ve ever had to before, trying to reel this baby in. Just the process of it, will be the most exciting thing you’ve ever done. Other people will see you and be so happy for you, they’ll even try to help you by giving some tips, anything to make sure you don’t screw this up. When you finally get this baby in the boat, it'll be bigger and better than you expected, a fish bigger than you! You’ll pick that thing up and show the world! The proudest thing you’ve ever accomplished. A trophy fish to remember and cherish forever. You’ll always be grateful for having the patience to wait. I’m living proof that hopeless romance, isn’t hopeless at all, it just seems that way.
How to ask a girl out on a date
How to ask a girl out on a date
Asking a girl out on a date can be difficult for many guys. The chance of the girl saying ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to a larger extent depends on the way the guy approaches her or talks to her. If the girl is already in love with you or she was waiting for you to approach her, getting a ‘yes’ may not need much persuasion. But if you are approaching a complete stranger asking for a date, it’ll probably need a lot of confidence and the ability to face rejection.
Many girls might agree that they like a straight forward approach, when a man asks her out on a first date. Beating around the bush, shows nervousness, wavering, and being unsure of yourself. The best way to ask a girl out is in person, IMO. Women like men who are well groomed and confident and who treats them with respect. Bad breath and body odor are huge turn-offs, so make sure that you smell clean and fresh. Engaging in a friendly and casual conversation and getting to know her a little first would be a good idea. Complimenting her could also help you score well with her. Be smart about it though, sincere not cheesy, although being corny is sometimes better than appearing to be shallow. However, telling her that she is sexy or talking about any part of her anatomy can scare off a girl if you are asking for a first date. Instead of that you can say things like ‘You are so pretty’ or ‘your eyes are so beautiful’ when approaching for a first date. Try to avoid complimenting her on things that she has obviously heard a million times. Always take advantage of a new haircut/style, she might be a little insecure about making the choice to cut her her/changing her style, so you taking notice, and telling her how great she looks, is always a good idea. If she is looking into your eyes or lips while you are talking, its a positive sign that she is interested in you. If she is averting her eyes or looking uninterested then you should try to make her interested in you first, before asking for the date, otherwise you would have to face rejection.
Remember, women get hit on all the time. The men they don’t know anything about, don’t get dates. Shes gotta know a little bit about you, so she knows your not some creeper. A bar setting is different, if shes there with one or two female friends, she is looking to meet somebody. In the situation, you just gotta be different from the rest, in a good way, i.e. magic tricks probably wont do the trick. If shes with a large group of women, its probably a girls night type of event, which usually consists of anti-man rallying. That doesn’t mean its impossible to pick a girl up, if you can your make your target woman like you, in front of all her friends, and even win their approval, then you’ve accomplished what most men cannot. Sometimes though, even if you crash and burn and make a fool of yourself, and still handle the rejection well, you just might have won her attention enough to come talk to you later on, assuming you don’t wander off to some other woman. Its usually all about confidence, not cockiness, humble confidence. If you look like a tough guy, that can sometimes work to your advantage, but never TRY to look like a tough guy. Women like smiles, so smile frequently, be yourself, be sincere, at all times. Even the slightest hint of dishonesty will send a woman running in the opposite direction. If you find some common interests or hobbies then getting her to go on a date with you might not be difficult. If you have set the date to meet her you should also get her contact information and follow up with her before the date to verify time and details such as, if you are gonna pick her up from home or meet her on the spot. Asking a girl out at the right time and right place can help to get a favorable reply from her too. Be ridiculously open-minded, if she comes up with an idea on her own, without you asking, take it! Some women wanna see what you got planned, so they’ll let you plan the date on your own, that’s your chance to impress her. Remember, a woman is impressed by sincerity, not a man trying to be somebody hes not. Don’t try to impress her, by renting a ferrari, and taking her to the most expensive place in your city. Rejections are not easy to face. If the girl says ‘no’ the first time, don’t run out the door as fast as you can just to avoid the awkwardness of rejection. Don’t act shocked or offended either. Stay there for a few more minutes and talk to her as if you never asked. Be cool about it, show her that you can take rejection, and can still be friends (worse comes to worst). You can thank her for her time and tell her that you had a nice time talking to her, and hope that she will say ‘yes’ next time. This helps to approach her again easily a second time or get her contact number from her. Only do this if its obvious shes into you though. Sometimes no, actually DOES mean no. Don’t take rejection personally though, and don’t let that discourage you. After all, there are more fish in the sea, and she just wasn’t the right fish.
Did i miss, or leave anything out?
This blog is strictly opinion, and completely open to suggestions. I hope this might help someone. -wrb
Asking a girl out on a date can be difficult for many guys. The chance of the girl saying ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to a larger extent depends on the way the guy approaches her or talks to her. If the girl is already in love with you or she was waiting for you to approach her, getting a ‘yes’ may not need much persuasion. But if you are approaching a complete stranger asking for a date, it’ll probably need a lot of confidence and the ability to face rejection.
Many girls might agree that they like a straight forward approach, when a man asks her out on a first date. Beating around the bush, shows nervousness, wavering, and being unsure of yourself. The best way to ask a girl out is in person, IMO. Women like men who are well groomed and confident and who treats them with respect. Bad breath and body odor are huge turn-offs, so make sure that you smell clean and fresh. Engaging in a friendly and casual conversation and getting to know her a little first would be a good idea. Complimenting her could also help you score well with her. Be smart about it though, sincere not cheesy, although being corny is sometimes better than appearing to be shallow. However, telling her that she is sexy or talking about any part of her anatomy can scare off a girl if you are asking for a first date. Instead of that you can say things like ‘You are so pretty’ or ‘your eyes are so beautiful’ when approaching for a first date. Try to avoid complimenting her on things that she has obviously heard a million times. Always take advantage of a new haircut/style, she might be a little insecure about making the choice to cut her her/changing her style, so you taking notice, and telling her how great she looks, is always a good idea. If she is looking into your eyes or lips while you are talking, its a positive sign that she is interested in you. If she is averting her eyes or looking uninterested then you should try to make her interested in you first, before asking for the date, otherwise you would have to face rejection.
Remember, women get hit on all the time. The men they don’t know anything about, don’t get dates. Shes gotta know a little bit about you, so she knows your not some creeper. A bar setting is different, if shes there with one or two female friends, she is looking to meet somebody. In the situation, you just gotta be different from the rest, in a good way, i.e. magic tricks probably wont do the trick. If shes with a large group of women, its probably a girls night type of event, which usually consists of anti-man rallying. That doesn’t mean its impossible to pick a girl up, if you can your make your target woman like you, in front of all her friends, and even win their approval, then you’ve accomplished what most men cannot. Sometimes though, even if you crash and burn and make a fool of yourself, and still handle the rejection well, you just might have won her attention enough to come talk to you later on, assuming you don’t wander off to some other woman. Its usually all about confidence, not cockiness, humble confidence. If you look like a tough guy, that can sometimes work to your advantage, but never TRY to look like a tough guy. Women like smiles, so smile frequently, be yourself, be sincere, at all times. Even the slightest hint of dishonesty will send a woman running in the opposite direction. If you find some common interests or hobbies then getting her to go on a date with you might not be difficult. If you have set the date to meet her you should also get her contact information and follow up with her before the date to verify time and details such as, if you are gonna pick her up from home or meet her on the spot. Asking a girl out at the right time and right place can help to get a favorable reply from her too. Be ridiculously open-minded, if she comes up with an idea on her own, without you asking, take it! Some women wanna see what you got planned, so they’ll let you plan the date on your own, that’s your chance to impress her. Remember, a woman is impressed by sincerity, not a man trying to be somebody hes not. Don’t try to impress her, by renting a ferrari, and taking her to the most expensive place in your city. Rejections are not easy to face. If the girl says ‘no’ the first time, don’t run out the door as fast as you can just to avoid the awkwardness of rejection. Don’t act shocked or offended either. Stay there for a few more minutes and talk to her as if you never asked. Be cool about it, show her that you can take rejection, and can still be friends (worse comes to worst). You can thank her for her time and tell her that you had a nice time talking to her, and hope that she will say ‘yes’ next time. This helps to approach her again easily a second time or get her contact number from her. Only do this if its obvious shes into you though. Sometimes no, actually DOES mean no. Don’t take rejection personally though, and don’t let that discourage you. After all, there are more fish in the sea, and she just wasn’t the right fish.
Did i miss, or leave anything out?
This blog is strictly opinion, and completely open to suggestions. I hope this might help someone. -wrb
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